I don’t know about you, but when I didn’t have kids, “me time” had a very different definition. It meant hanging out with friends, long trips to the store for shopping and dinner, and stretches of time when I actually felt bored. I don’t even remember what bored feels like anymore (does it still exist…?). It left me thinking about how I *do* actually squeeze in me time throughout the week.
Here’s my take on how I’m actually finding “me time” during the day with two kids at home…
What “Me Time” Really Looks Like After Kids
A drive to nowhere.
When the kids have had an unusually loud day and Mom needs a break. You pile everyone in the car and drive to nowhere. Why? Because it’s the closest thing we get to a fifteen minute break and the change in scenery actually feels like a mini vacay…
Having an extended visit to the restroom.
Before, it used to mean tummy troubles, but now it means extra time to sit without any distractions and noise. Until little hands start coming underneath the closed door – does that ever stop being creepy?!
The kids are asleep and it’s “me time” even if I can barely keep my eyes open because I’m exhausted from the day. But, they’ve finally posted Scandal on Hulu…eyes, you are impervious to sleep.
Extra “sleep” in the morning.
When I’m barely waking up and I know that I need to get up to start the day, but instead I roll over and throw the covers over my head for extra warmth and darkness – ME TIME.
Staring at my cup of coffee.
When I’m holding my cup of joe and thinking about how grateful I am to live in a time when caffeine practically falls from the sky, that cup of coffee is all about me. But, if I’m really lucky, I’m staring into a cup of Starbucks. Starbucks is the new me time.
An extended chat at the park.
You know, when you keep telling the kids “just five more minutes and then we’re leaving.” And, then suddenly it’s half an hour later because you’ve been chatting it up with the other mom who’s looking for me time at the park, too. Yah, that totally counts.
Washing the dishes.
I know, I shouldn’t admit this one, but when you’re tired from the day and you swap bathing the kids with your partner to wash the dishes instead. Totally counts as me time. Who knew loading the dish washer could be so rejuvenating?
Waiting for school to get out.
I don’t know…do I need to explain this one? Sometimes I let my little one who fell asleep in the car to rest peacefully for a few more minutes before we rush in to grab my preschooler. Shh, sweet baby…it’s me time…
While you know these are just for fun, it is true how much “me time” has changed since motherhood.
And, finding time for yourself throughout the day really is important.
While I’m hopeful that “me time” will have open hours again in the future, I’ll gladly take the fleeting me time throughout the day in exchange for extended hours of little kid time.
Because we all know that I’ll be hoping for less “me time” and more “them time” when my kids are all grown up.
And, “them time” totally rocks, don’t you think?