Being a stay at home mom is the hardest job that I’ve ever done.
I’m the boss, lunch lady, custodian, teacher, and play mate. As a stay at home mom, I wash dishes while singing to my kids, make up games for us when we’re stuck inside, and try to get both of my kids to play together (nicely). There are so many hats that I wear as a stay at home mom, but there are a few things that make the job easier.
1.) Go on…say it: I ROCK at being a Mom!
Was it hard to say? I think it’s so important to remind ourselves every day that we rock as a mom. Write it on a mirror, tuck a note in your wallet, or say it out loud! The more we say it, the more it becomes a part of who we are.
2.) Define your Expectations as a Stay at Home Mom
Have you ever sat down and talked with your partner about your expectations as a stay-at-home Mom? There are so many stigmas about what a stay-at-mom is or isn’t, but YOUR expectations are what matter most. Figure out what a stay-at-home mom means for your family because it looks different for each and every family.
3.) Stop Comparing to Other Moms
This is a shout out to all moms: don’t compare yourself with other moms. Look, your parenting, your choices, and your kids are completely different from the Mom next to you. Cut out the comparisons and we’ll all be happier moms!
4.) Find Balance
If you’re like me, then being super social with other moms might not be your strength. Or, you might LOVE being social all day long. We’ve found that staying super social in the mornings (for my daughter) and relaxed in the afternoons (for me) keeps us both happy all week long. Striking that balance will help keep each of you filled up and relaxed.
5.) Be Your Biggest Fan
This is the case in any job – I know – but, the thing about being a stay at home Mom is that you don’t have a lot of feedback. There’s no boss giving you employee of the month and no co-workers saying, “you rock!” Instead, you have to believe in yourself and the choices you make all day long. Remind yourself often that you are amazing. You are doing the best you can. You are a great mom.
6.) Find a Community
Tap into a community of people for you and for your kids. Dance class and art class have been a wonderful way for us to form a community. Neighbors have provided that for us as well. But, the hardest part of being a stay-at-home mom is that you can get isolated. No one wins when you’re isolated. Contact your local community college, parks and recreation, or any place in your area that can connect you with classes or a community.
7.) Figure out a Routine
There is a level of flexibility that we have by being stay-at-home moms that can work against us. You wake up, don’t get dressed, and suddenly your stare at the clock and it’s mid-afternoon. Doing that consistently will throw you and the kids off, so be sure to build in a flow or routine that happens every single day while your home – especially if you have little ones in the house who thrive on routines.
Perhaps most importantly, remember that you matter.
Remember your passions outside of your kids. Remember what got you excited before you had kids. Remember to nurture all parts of yourself so that you truly can ROCK at being a healthy, happy mom!
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